As human beings sometimes we are caught up thinking about what we are missing, what we don’t have, what we wished we had and wallowing away in our sorrow and lack. This is actually normal human behavior. Some days we are feeling great and excited and we are thankful for what we do have and appreciative and we feel like we can accomplish what we desire and other days we can’t figure out how to do our work effectively and don’t feel like doing much. On those days we are unhappy and focused on what we are lacking in our business and our lives. The good news is there are 4 simple steps that are easy to follow and that anyone can do that will quickly put you right back into action.
First you need to know the 3 common mistake people make which causes them to have lack thinking and then you can apply the 4 easy steps to achieve whatever you desire in your business and your life.
Mistake One:
Focusing on what is wrong, what is missing, what isn’t right and getting into a spiral that is all about the problems at work and in life.
Mistake Two:
Hanging out with people who are “energy vampires” … you know those people who love to take all the joy out of life and who complain and blame and constantly talk about how bad things are at work and how their personal lives are a mess. You know who they are because they totally take your enthusiasm away after you’ve been around them for awhile.
Mistake Three:
Negative self-talk that beats you down where you don’t love and appreciate yourself and you compare yourself to others and put yourself down.
You are Human
Ok, so you make some mistakes, we all do! Welcome to the human race. It is not your fault that you have been focusing on lack. You’ve never been taught the right formula to change your thinking which changes your feelings and changes your actions to create more peace and success. When I discovered these coaching “secrets” over a decade ago, I knew I had to share them with others so that together we could create more successful businesses and happier lives. Here are the 4 secrets you can use to create EXTRAordinary success now!
Secret One: Ask Yourself a Powerful Question
Keep asking yourself this powerful coaching question: What is going right? This question will get your mind thinking and your emotions feeling about what is going right and when you are thinking and feeling this way you’ll take positive inspired actions. One of my clients who owned a bakery had an employee quit and found out that the local grocery store was going to start carrying fresh baked goods. He kept thinking about how badly his business would be hurt, that he’d make less money, and he would be working harder and he would eventually go out of business. Once he learned this question and began asking himself this question whenever he felt stress and lack he began to get new answers. He discovered a lot was going right… he owned a store, his dream. He worked close to his home. His family might be able to help him out while he found a new employee and his cousin might come work for him. He could approach the grocery store and offer to supply their baked goods. This question changed his thoughts and feelings and he got inspired to take action to move himself and his business forward!
Secret Two: Make a Powerful Observation about Yourself
When you notice you are feeling down or in lack stop and be honest with yourself. Tell yourself what you are observing yourself doing that is creating this feeling and holding you back from creating more and having what you desire. When I ruptured my Achilles a few years ago I was angry about being in a wheelchair for months and complained about how I wasn’t making money because I couldn’t work. Then I found myself having a pity party and even when I was able to work all I did is complain and talk about my Achilles. One day I got honest with myself and I said, “Terri, all you do is talk about your injury instead of moving on. I see you choosing to be stuck because you aren’t talking about anything else”. I still remember this because it actually stung a bit to know I was responsible for doing nothing but complaining and income was halted because I wasn’t taking action in my business. Once I made this observation I got into action and re-connected with clients and potential clients and my business picked right back up.
Secret Three: Make a Powerful Request to Get Moving
To break the physical state and the emotional state of focusing on lack and negative thinking make a powerful request of yourself to get back into action. One of my friends recently got a new supervisor and they weren’t getting along well with this person. So, she wasn’t putting her all into her work, she was getting there late, take longer lunches and basically not caring. When I taught her this coaching technique she decided to try it out. Driving to work she said to herself, “Bonnie, I request you motivate yourself and find positive aspects of your new boss. Today see if you can begin to write down good things about your boss instead of looking for the reasons you don’t like her.” Bonnie called me and said, “It works!” She found 97 things about her boss she actually liked including her hair, her car, her teeth, her memos and the fact her boss didn’t waste a lot of time holding meetings. She had a new attitude because she made this request of herself.
Less Stress and More Peace
Forgive yourself when you get down. Accept your being human and put these three coaching secrets to work. With the right coaching formula you will find you enjoy your work and life more and can have less stress and more peace each day!